Young Christian Single Mom

Person 1: “Oh I didn’t know you were married!”

Person 2: “Don’t worry, I was also born like that”

Person 3: * hands me book titled: The God of Second Chances *

I can’t help but chuckle when I think back on these instances and so many more.

Ultimately, they were Christian acquaintances that meant well. But, although unintentionally, they did trigger a little voice inside that would ask “How dare you try and forgive yourself for this unspeakable sin?”

As you might know, one of the worst things that you could do as an unmarried woman is show up with a baby bump. It can be even worse when you have grown up in church and in a Christian home. There’s no hiding what you have been up to and it can feel as though you have committed the biggest sin in comparison to everyone else in the room.

As unlikely as it sounds though, this too can have a positive effect on your walk with God as a young woman.

After having my son, I had what was close to a ‘Saul-to-Damascus’ moment. I wasn’t necessarily persecuting Christians, but I had become a little casual about my walk with God. I have shared with some people in the past on how what was supposed to be my most shameful season actually turned out to be the very reason why I found reason to dig deep once more so that the foundation for my relationship with God could be redone. Despite all the books and theories that are available on raising children, I felt incredibly ill-equipped and the only solution I knew for this new journey I was about to embark on was to seek the one who had entrusted me with this little human that would look to me for absolutely everything. While trying to figure out how to raise my son in the ways of the Lord, I found my way back onto His path too.

Reflecting on this reminds me of how Romans 8:28 speaks of how all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. If my life had gone exactly according to the desires I had before becoming a mother, I know that I would’ve missed His voice on a lot of things – especially my call and/or purpose.

The journey resulted in a lot of shifts in my life and forced me to grow quicker than planned in a lot of areas. Despite everything though, I am grateful. I won’t lie and say I would choose to walk the journey from the very beginning again, but I appreciate that it allowed me to give birth to a whole lot more that I didn’t even know I carried within me.

If you have a story of your own that you have yet to view in a positive light, I hope this encourages you to start doing so today. Be reminded that what threatens to break you was actually intended to mould you

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Sending love to you

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